Standards are made not met

Lately, I’ve been thinking if standards that are just there how are they just there? I mean someone must have made them and as they are made then we can made ours too, right?

Success & Failure

For instance, the success or failure, are two standards that are measured in many ways; like grades for example. It’s true that having a high grade can show how good you are collecting information, but it has absolutely nothing to do with your success, or creativity. I mean having high grades can show that you are good in understanding your lessons and studying but it’s not necessary an indication of a success in practical life and I think that’s a common knowledge that most of us are told or know by first hand experience. So, the concept of success and failure comes in many other ways like your personal life too. I mean not because you were never in a relationship before, then you can’t be in one. Maybe you are one who appreciate it so much and really committed that you are just waiting for the right person. Same for your practical life. Not because you are just photocopying papers in an office then you can’t do the higher jobs. Who knows? Maybe your boss doesn’t know how to use the photocopier. πŸ˜€

My point is…

We are different, we are really good in different standards that not all will understand, just like many standards in our society that never make sense to us, but a big deal for others. Therefore, somehow we made our own standards as we move on in this life. As long as we meet them, then we are fortunate! We are the ones who would show people how important are our standards. Maybe they will never understand but they might appreciate it. As we do appreciate theirs.

One day,

Life might be easier. More thoughtful and hopeful, with less high standards that can be so high and crushing for some people. Praise the real you in you, then maybe you can find the peace, success and happiness you were searching for.

 

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One wish

If while shopping for the new year’s you passed by an antique shop and found an old lamp that you liked, then you bought it. After going home you tried to clean the dust on it and a genie came out of the lamp and asked you to wish one wish, only one. What would you wish?

(P.S. wishing to have more than one wish is not allowed πŸ˜€ )

For me, I would wish to relive all the moments of happiness that I lived for my first things, like my first mobile phone, yeah I am old enough that when i was a child mobile phones weren’t that easy to get one as a child, or my first big toy or my first trip with my family, or my first time I went to the beach. More and more, countless moments that as I grew up, they started to fad. the feeling for anything new meant a new start that would mean more responsibility or actually being an adult. Like my first day at university. I got the university I want, I was so happy but then I remembered that it’s just the start for something bigger. Life would never be easy as it used to be.

But the saddest part? That somehow with all the stress or new planning for life ahead I forgot along how to be that happy. Purely happy, just like a child. True, I learned how to be differently happy like learning new things or even being behind the wheel for the first time, yeah I like cars. That’s a different kind of happiness, maybe adulthood happiness, the one that comes with it’s worried or danger. It felt and tasted differently but never like the careless happiness of childhood.

What are you wishes? Share them below in the comments, maybe you can find you wish-mate.

Happy New Year Everyone! Wish this year brings you that happiness, success that you want and get you closer with who you love.

Always welcomed to the corner,

Menna Xx

Gave up asking for it

By “it”, I mean love, friendship, kindness, happiness, or even sadness. It’s like they are no longer things that can just happen or have. Even those are now valuable currencies that you have to work for to get like money or anything in life.

Now when my parents or elder people talk about the past and how things where. Like how good friends they had or how happy they were with low money and simple jobs, they just as any fictional story I have ever read. Sometimes I even laugh at how we have reached these days. Laugh with a crying heart.

Now to have friend you have to be really nice, really friendly and it doesn’t matter how good friends or even how “besties” you are, don’t give then your secret or at least not all of it because life and people are no longer as kind and as trustworthy as we hear or read or watch. Life and dreams aren’t the same thing. You wish for true love and you find yourself in a weird relationship that you call love but it’s everything else other than that. You try to trust that one friend, just one not even group as we see in movies and that one personΒ  makes you face the worst surprise of your life.

When I list those facts to myself or my mum for example, she calls me cold. The idea is that I have to be like that. I have not to trust people with my secrets or be too caring because I am not actually cold, I am just trying to protect myself from heart-breaking or an un smiley face. Unfortunately, that’s what life has taught me. I would never wish for such a life, such an act. But that’s how the drama of life goes. Who changed the rules who made people actors with masks and hidden hearts? No one really knows. Maybe us, maybe wars, maybe situations and conditions people until now passed by. Maybe all of them.

I am just wishing one day the rules would change again and maybe I would be telling my children or even grandchildren about how happy easy life I had and hopefully they won’t laugh with a crying heart like me now. I can’t lose hope after all. You too don’t πŸ™‚

Always welcomed to the corner,

Menna Xx

Those little things…

Do you ever listen to a song and wish if it was actually thing to touch and feel, not just to listen to like keeping it? Or look at the sky one night when the breeze hits your face lovingly and wish that you would keep that feeling, that memory forever?

It’s those little things that makes from life a great place to live at, even if just for a moment. Those little details in your lover or family. They might seem useless,or even a type of imperfection, but it stays the thing that makes from them the most perfect person on this land. Things that you and only you would understand, smile at when noticing them and enjoy them as if they are the last moments of your before your go out of breath.

They sometimes can be a part of the past. A feelings, a sound, a touch, a smell or even a look. Something that makes you remember someone or a moment that automatically draws a smile on your face or bring tears to your eyes. It either re opens wounds or heal them. When this moment comes it might be seconds but our mind makes them feel like a year or even years.

I always wish those moments to overwhelm me, to take me with them and to not leave me to the painful reality. Isn’t it injustice? They take us to a beautiful moment and then someone call us to bring us to reality. It might be injustice but at least we have them at our hard times, right?

Therefore, enjoy the moment! Reality one even as when they come as a memory later, they would be as strong as ever to break you free from the world for seconds. The painful ones and the happy ones. I can hear you asking about the painful ones, why keeping them?! πŸ˜€ The answer is that pain can sometimes remind us that we passed harder times before and we can pass those ones too! πŸ˜‰

Enjoy life guys! this moment in a sec would be a memory and it only be lived ones but remembered forever! How do you want to remember it, it’s up to you πŸ˜‰

Always welcomed to the corner,

Menna Xx

One star in the sky

I love looking to the sky, it makes me feel better as if i am actually flying and diving into it. However, I like looking to it at night more. But whenever I look at it, I find only one star or maybe two at most. I love how stars look as if they are pearls that are tossed onto the dark carpet of the sky.

I used to be upset when I don’t find a lot of stars in the sky when I look up. Until one day the electric current went out in the area and the lights of the houses, the street all were gone. That’s when I saw the sky in a different way, I saw the stars! So much! Beautiful! That I wished I could just live in a place where only their lights are there. But that was when I learned one more lesson, that a person can’t have all the beautiful things in the world.

Just like the stars and lights. If you want to see the light of stars, you will have to give up on the lights of the city and in such a life can we actually give up the lights of the city? Can we give up on the electricity and everything? It doesn’t matter what we think, there are facts that says no. Which means that we can’t live anything to the max of it. Because if we did, nothing will be left to live. That’s why who has money, doesn’t have peace. Who has happiness might not have fame. That’s why unfortunately when someone has everything or live everything, they might end up ending their own lives.

But that doesn’t mean that we stop trying! We should keep trying forever! We should try to find happiness even if that will make us lose something else, as long as that’s what we want. Sometimes, losing can be a great win that we can’t notice.

Just remember that the light of the stars in the sky is beautiful but you still need to charge your phone πŸ˜‰

Always welcomed to the corner,

Menna Xx

Cherophobia – My own fear of happiness

I actually searched the term. Have you ever laughed so much and prayed in your heart that you don’t cry as much as you laughed later?

That’s me, every single time I laugh, I smile or just be happy. I don’t know if it’s my luck or my destiny but it doesn’t matter with how much I get happy I find the same amount of sadness or anger later. like for example last week I was going to my exam and I was so happy for some reason, not for the exam for sure, I put on my music and rolled down the car windows enjoying my music and I just smiled. To figure out that I forgot my bag and I had to go all the way back home to get my bag. I know that it’s stupidity of me but accidents happens right?

The idea is that I am tired of being the game of luck or destiny. I am a happy person by nature. I don’t get upset over things easily, and always when I have a problem I don’t cry over it, I think of a solution so that problem is over as quickly as possible. Unfortunately, people around me and my world isn’t as comfortable or happy as I am, that every time I smile I know that I will pay for that tiny movement of my mouth.

It’s hard to be piece that doesn’t belong to the puzzle. It’s hard to always suffer for a moment of rest. But after all I will still smile πŸ˜‰

Always welcomed to the corner,

Menna Xx

 

We need happily ever after endings more than we think

The past few days I spent most of my free time, if not all, reading books. Well, I’d like to tell you which books but I don’t want to spoil it for any of you who is going to read it.

Anyway, it was a series and the end of it was an upnorml one: A not happily ever after ending. like imaging soending yourself spending days and hourse fillping through the book pages while you are having breakfast, in the bus, before you sleep. You just can’t let it go. Until I got attached more than I usually do. It happens with me most of the time, like after watching or reading something it stays in my mind for a while. However, with all that I’ve read and watched it had one of the usual endings. The ending that makes you satisfied, the kind of happy one. Naturally, I like new ideas and weird ideas. I don’t know what made upset from such an end, although it’s brilliant.

It made me realise that maybe I like weird ideas, un expected endings but I don’t enjoy them. Like I would write them if it was my novel but I would not read them. Unexpected things makes us think of it more than usual, right? Therefore, if the unexpected thing is not as pleasent as we wish, we would keep thinking of it. So the more we think of it, if it’s negative thing or memory, the more we feel as if we can no longer sit still or breath as if the room’s walls are getting closer. At least that’s what I feel.

That’s when the idea that it doesn’t what we believe in, what we think of, we will always need the happy endings came to my mind. Because in the middle of all the darkness of the real life, reading a book, watching a movie, listening to a song are few ways that can make us no longer be living in the real world, that’s the only escape wecan get when we can’t afford anything else. Until one day we can have one of those in our lives :).

Always welcomed to the corner,
Menna Xx

You don’t have to master it to do it

How many of us love singing, dancing, drawing well but actually can’t do any of these good enough? At the end of the day, you love them then do them! You don’t have to be an expert to enjoy your heart.

I love singing, writing and drawing. In general. Well, I am not a really good singer, but I do sing when I can or able to. I am writing now as you can see (I am even writing my very own first novel now) and I draw when I feel the urge to. Β Loads and loads of things and people tried to stop me from doing these things. These little things makes me feel happy when I am blue. Many people might see it silly or because it’s unprofessional, then it’s a waste of time. And first of these people is even my mother. However, I still do it. I may not be perfect but who is?! I just enjoy it!

Practicing makes you perfect. Therefore, maybe your drawing this time doesn’t look like it’s related to a human being by any chance, but maybe the next one it would be a better portrait πŸ˜‰ As long as hope and the fire of determination is in your heart, then you can go places. How many people said I can’t and they are now Nobel Prize winners, public figures and more. Even if you didn’t get to be any of those, you at least feel happiness when you hold you pen to write, the mic to sing or the guitar to play. Remember how happy were you when you were child, it was when you had no chains, the chains of the society. Like when you are in a party and you don’t want to dance so you don’t have to look funny or be an embarrassment. That might be true, yeah well no one would like to embarrassed but that doesn’t mean you can’t dance at all. Be yourself, at least with yourself.

My point is that happiness comes from you. You can make yourself the happiest or the saddest person on earth. The simple things count, sometimes even more than the huge things. Don’t let people decide how you would cheer yourself. Free yourself from people’s tongues. And enjoy being silly and happy though, you deserve it, you even need it sometimes πŸ˜‰ :D.

Always welcomed to the corner,\

Menna Xx

There is only one end

Have you ever thought about the after ends? Lately I’ve been thinking about all the starts that have happened to me after ends. The new fresh starts that I had just when I said that’s it, it’s the definitely the end.

When things end, it’s usually the end of a chapter in our lives but not the end of the book. Even nature is the same. When a plant dies ,for example, it’s the start for a new life of another plant. Like how many times have you cried about ending a relationship or a friendship, when it was actually the fresh start of a new one? How many times when you got to leave a job or school and you thought that’s it, I can’t achieve my dreams anymore, it was actually the start of a new career or future that you have never thought of?

We are the ones who end things ourselves, things don’t end on their own. the end is when we lose hope, when we stop in our places convinced it’s the end. Therefore, if you want new starts, don’t stop. Believe in yourself and in your dreams, heart and thoughts. Don’t just let go of it that easy just because it just ended, or even if it ended don’t stay home mourning, if you want a new start, then go on! Get yourself a fresh start.

I know that for some people would be hard to start over after a hard experience, but just know that we can’t stop breathing or stop the cycle of our lives to stop. Therefore, either starting now or later, you will start again from some point. The idea here is that the earlier you start, the faster you develop and get over your aches. Don’t judge yourself or punish it for wrong choices or decisions you might have taken in the past, and don’t forget them either. Actually think of them but think of them as shadows of the past. Lessons learnt, without their ache. In another way, think of them, but don’t feel the. Don’t feel the pain again when you didn’t get into your dream job or college, when you broke up with someone who you thought that this person is the one. You felt it once, lived it ones. Don’t you think it’s enough tears already? Isn’t it time to move on and instead of regretting how it ended, think of how you can make a new start of it. Applying to other jobs with other fields that you might be interested at, maybe even better at them than the other one?

Think of the happy ending. The real one, the one that is actually the end of the book. The full picture. Every time you end a chapter, look forward to the end of the book. The end that will keep you satisfied. The success, the happiness, the love. πŸ™‚

What’s your ideas of the book ending πŸ˜‰ :D?

Always welcomed to the corner,

Menna Xx

PS:Life is too short

Live everyday like you it’s the last day of your life, and live your life as if you live forever

We all have our own fights, some of them are the ones that help us build our lives and give us a goal to live for. Others that only waste our life time, such as our fights with our families and friends. Some fights yes worth it, but they are few ones that rarely happens. Life isn’t that long to spend it in ignoring phone calls of your beloved ones or staying home sitting on the couch and cancel hanging out.

Listen! From now on, you are not cancelling any going outs to stay at home, or cancelling phone calls because you just don’t want to answer it. Fell free to go out do what you’ve always wished for as long as you can! Be who you’ve always wanted to be.

Remember: When you are backed against the wall, break the goddamn thing down

– Suits TV Show

Most importantly is to not depend on someone for your happiness or to do you something for you. Since my holiday started, I’ve been asking people and my father to ask for me about a center to learn Italian at it, but off course everyone is busy, therefore, I started to learning on my own and Io studio l’italiano di per una settimana adesso (I study Italian for a week now) :D. Do what is best for you no matter what πŸ˜‰ πŸ˜€

Life is short to be sad or angry for more than usual it deserves. Look around and see how life can be so nice and shady and the same time. Also remember that life is mainly gray, black or white are the colors of the extreme that at special occasions can show up.

Honestly, That blog should be short because it’s not me who is going to tell you how to make yourself happy and lively. It’s you who should think how can you make your life easier and better πŸ˜‰ πŸ˜€

Any ideas? πŸ˜‰ πŸ˜€

Always welcomed to the corner,

Menna Xx