Don’t force it, you will find the right person anyway

We have to accept the fact that we are different human beings. We can’t change it or we can’t change each other by anyway possible.

Leaving our beloved ones that we once thought that’s the person we are going to spend our lives together no matter what. Losing a friend due to different personalities or point of views. As we are different, we live our lives different as well too and that’s not the problem yet. The real problem is when we force ourselves to be with the wrong person or when we try to fix them. Let’s get this straight, we can’t change people, events and the life course might be, but humans can’t change it’s other. It’s like fire against fire, both can’t put off each other, but different elements like water and fire can. Some people don’t even change at all, even if people change it might be late and their actions might not.

The idea I am trying to say that yes it might be hard to change but the earlier to figure out how to change to the better person we are it’s the better it can be. Don’t ever let someone label you or say you are something you are not, because unless you feel that thing and know for a fact that it’s true, it’s never true. People’s strongest weapon of hurting people is their tongue and the weakest spot to hit someone to bleeding is their faith in themselves. As soon as kit’s gone, it’s from the hardest thing to get back and start being confident again. You can go places and know it for a fact, just don’t let the person you are to stop you, you are different yes and be proud in anyway you are different, and if you think it’s not how you want yourself to be, easy! Try to be the best 😉

One more thing, don’t ever force a relationship, or a friendship. It won’t only be the hardest way to live it, if you ever got the chance too, it might cause damage more than healing and building up. Know for a fact that people are like different roses in a field, find you match and go with it. 🙂

Have you ever tried to fix a relationship or a friendship with someone and it was more or pain than support ??

Always welcomed to the corner,

Menna Xx

There is nothing called “wasted time”

As I’ve finished my exams, I’d like to say that during my exams I did a lot of stuff that anyone would say about it ” a waste of time”, but I don’t.  Because in those minutes or hours I learnt something new from watching a TV or relaxed while just sitting. All of these stuff were nothing near a waste of time. You want to know why?

During my exam examination time, I used to study what I need and spend the rest of the day watching TV shows, sleeping, hanging out or just chilling. I know that sounds crazy, but seriously, what’s the point of studying the same thing over and over again and stress over it. It will give me nothing more than anxiety and worry about the exam. When I watched TV shows and enjoyed my time, that and my stress go away and I didn’t waste my time, I actually learnt new things. Such as languages, I used to watch, English, Turkish and sometimes Italian TV shows and movies. I learnt some words of different languages and now I am trying to apply for an Italian course and willing to actually know the language! Which by the way, might look good on the CV 😉 I mean education of school sure counts and an important thing and experience to have but there are other skills away from the school that needs to be developed and if we stayed only focusing on the school, then we might lose these skills and never be able to have them.

Ones before a teacher of me said that in everything benefit, even games. I actually believe that, anything you do helps you to have better skills. Even sleeping, helps you to focus more and rest you body and mind. However, when everything goes more than it supposed to be, it will have negative impact. Like you can’t study all day, sleep all day, play all day. Imaging your day’s hours as boxes you are trying to fill in and the best is to fill it in with different activities and things to do. So Just fill your day wisely.

Always remember that life is short and whatever limit is there you are the one who made it and you are the one who can break it. Just you. People words are just words that without actions are useless. Be the action and prove that not everything they say is right. You are not old or young to do what you want, as long as it’s legal and doesn’t harm anyone, including you. 🙂

Always welcomed to the corner,

Menna Xx

One love is all it needs

Firstly, I’d like to send my prayers to all the victims in every part in the world and always know that it’s never the end. It’s never the finale or the last attack. Be strong the worse is yet to come.

I’ve always learned in my life to wish for the best and expect the worse. That doesn’t mean that after every bad thing happened I just say that this is what I expected and have nothing else to do. I actually think of a way to turn from the disaster and celebration and a moment of pride and legendary. As an example of that the One Love Manchester Concert. Although it was a compensation for the concert that had the attack, I think that was a good move and a very kind one, it made a lot happy not only the people who attended the concert but also the victims who felt the love and care of the people for donating and caring for them and helping them ❤

One of the quotes that I believe at is that in every bad there is good. We don’t know what the future holds and honestly, if we knew we would have chosen not to know and let it be. What I want to say is that whatever happened either good or bad is what drove you to that point and if you thought about it a little more, you would find out that you actually had nothing to do except this and that whatever you did was your best option at the time. Even if what happened was bad, just have patience and you will find out the good of it later. Life is like the Yang Yong, where there is black, there is white. Remember that and keep it in your mind. Sometimes in my darkest times, when I think of that thought I feel way better and it renews the hope in me and keeps me fighting.

Hate can’t go away, it’s a main factor in life that without it there is no life. That doesn’t mean that it can’t be reduced or controlled, all it needs just it’s Yong, love. Life drove us apart and made us busy in our own paths and lives. However, we still meet and become one strong hand, united with love. Love doesn’t have to be shown just when a misery happens, it should be shown in every day life, with your family, friends, co-workers, people in the street. Love was never just a word, it’s an act that needs to be taken.. 🙂

Always welcomed to the corner,

Menna Xx

Who Run The World?! You!

In the past few years I’ve learned that people and mainly the circumstances makes us go in different paths that we don’t like or weren’t expected.

Let me make my point clearer. For example, if a person running late in cash and want to buy a new sofa, he might buy a cheap sofa because that’s what he can afford. However, he might  actually wait a little more until he gets more money and buy the sofa he wants. You don’t have to be forced to do something you don’t want or because you can’t make it. There is nothing called impossible. I consider it a word that we just say at anything, although if we actually tried a little harder we might make miracles and dreams come true.

I know my words are repetitive and said zillions of times before, but have you ever thought actually about it? This blog is about making you think further about it. How many decisions you’ve made in your life that you thought later on “ I could’ve done better than this if I just thought more or waited..” It might not be out of regret but maybe that you just want to be better, which is what everyone would love to be. Just not because you want to be better so you do anything whether it’s good or bad.  There is nothing called that anything is possible to reach what you want, because it doesn’t matter what you reach you past is there and will always be there and will haunt you back with its memories so try always to keep it with nice clean ones, so you don’t regret it later.

Try always to keep the world at your command. I know that sounds crazy but I mean try instead of making people and conditions work you out for them and their benefit, you work them for yours, in a good way though without any harm to you or them. As I said, try always to make your past clean so, it doesn’t haunt you later. Remember that the key to success is power and power comes from self-confidence, having faith and not to give up and a tip from me try to play it fairly as much as you can you can be able to have an absolute power and try to be patient 😉 😀

I hope my words weren’t so boring or said before and now please after you close this blog or before you sleep tonight, close your eyes for a moment and try to think deeply about it, it might actually help 😉 😀

Always welcomed to the corner,

Menna Xx

Changes can’t be less annoying

I haven’t written a blog in a long time, and that’s because of my IGCSE exams and that’s not the only change I had because of the exams and the different living way of studying and staying home.

In the past 2 weeks or so, I have experienced some changes. Those changes weren’t so huge that might change my whole life or not by the changes I didn’t have before. Those are the normal changes I have every exam season, but honestly, they annoy me so much. For example, I don’t wake up in the morning and sleep at night at regular bases as my exam can be in the morning or the evening. Even if I followed my usual sleeping routine when I wake up I do nothing except walking around at the house watching an old tv show because I can’t study as it’s the last minute exam study ,that is not a good thing by the way, or do anything that might make me less concentrating.

Changes can be at anytime, anywhere. Although some of them we might not notice them due to the busy lives that we have and live, but when we feel them they can be nicely annoying or badly annoying. Changing is how life continues. Like do you remember yourself 2 years ago? You might have changes for the best or worse. You might be wishing to go back in time or just thankfully you came to this point. Changing isn’t necessarily to make you hate yourself or be angry, sometimes it gives hope that things can be better.  I think of changing as the arrows that we find in the halls to guide us and show us the way to the destination we wish for. Remember that whatever change you have is there because you made it there, so don’t blame or curse who made that change happen because it’s you who made it.

As I said above that some changes can be nicely annoying, well that’s true. It might be annoying because it might mix up your routine or way of life but that was never the worst part because the change that happened will make you forget all the pain later. For example as when people get married or have a baby or first year of college, university or school. That start can be annoying until you get used to what just happened there and once you got used to it that’s when the magic of happiness happens. The badly annoying is for example when someone gets fired from their job. That’s a change but once you get used to it, it will never be the same.

That doesn’t mean to just accept the change and sit there watching, changes can be changes trillions of times according to your own decision all you have to do is just simply… not to give up J

SO! What was you latest change and how annoying was it 😉 😀 ?

Always welcomed to the corner,

Menna Xx

We might be different but still the same

The people since so long ago were divided to classes. the division started by who owns the biggest part of land and have the most crops that can keep him and his family alive, this person mostly was the king. Later one at some part of the history it was divided by race and at some other time it was power. I know that most of you would say money but I think that money is just one thing the lead to another. I mean There are people who have great power but not the richest. Money can be a factor but not the main one.

Anyway, what I am trying to say here is that when you think of it we are humans, we walk the same land under the same sky. If we got lost, it’s the same stars that guide us to the right path. You want to know what makes you better than others? It’s not a name or a class you earned from your birth, it’s you work and love. It’s your ability to do the magic of fixing the bad things and benefit people more than hurting them. It’s your ability to build not to destroy, to make the world a better place.

We are always the same, god made us equal in a way! Think of it! If someone is pretty, they might not be smart. If someone is pretty and smart, they might not be happy. If someone is pretty, smart and happy, they might not be loved or have someone to lean on. The balance is always equal. It doesn’t matter your gender, race, bank account, or any of these stuff. These stuff is what the society put to regulate the life. But miracles can still happen after all 😉

Don’t give up and keep going on and don’t stop and say he or she is better than me. The moment you say that, is the moment you always regret in your whole life. We are all the same in a way, but we sometimes make us different. Hopefully, always different to the best. We are all born like the blank page and we fill the lines.

And most of all remember that as no one is better than you there is also no one lower than you. We are all humans who deserve a happy and peaceful life. We all deserve to love and be loved, we all deserve to be smiled at 🙂

Always welcome to the corner,

Menna Xx

A moment of thinking…

Have you ever stopped for a moment and started thinking over and over about the events in your life and how your journey up to her has been a long way along? I did and I do all the time, mostly searching for answers to questions that I sometimes don’t know. Sounds weird, right? 😀

What I meant by questions I don’t know are those that I ask myself when I feel sad or happy for no reason. Those times when you know there is something which is really good or really bad but you don’t know. However, from the most important questions I always ask myself is  ” Do I regret anything I’ve done in my life so far?” I always search for the answer “No”.  I always search my life events and search for what might be better if changed, what might I’ve done to make things better. It doesn’t matter how hard I think of better options I know that the best thing to do is not to regret anything I’ve done. Because firstly, Regret won’t make me feel any better and secondly, I had nothing else to do at the time that might made the situation better, and without those actions I might never be here now writing this blog..

Having a moment of thinking does’t mean only questions. Sometimes, I just… think. I just replay my day before I sleep and think of the people and events I was surrounded by today. I don’t mean  by that to annoy myself or think of the negative things that happened today, I always either think of the good things or how not to make those negative things happened today happen again. I don’t mean by thinking before sleeping “Over thinking”. I actually don’t believe in over thinking and that your brain do them on it’s own. No, every thing happens in this word s a reflection of another action or decision, we don’t see them or relate them but they are. If you over think before you sleep then probably your body is tired or that something happened today that upset  you and that’s the reaction your brain does to express the pain. I do get them sometimes but I always try  to replace them with a happy memory or a beautiful song that I like.

That doesn’t mean that I am a happy person who lives in a pink bubbly world, because I am not 😀 I also get upset and sad a loooooot of times! But I just say so what! It’s not the end of the world, it will move on! However, that doesn’t mean to drop the subject. I mean we all got goals and believes that we fight for in this life and that’s what mostly brings us the pain of failing and sadness. Don’t give up fighting! Just don’t be sad or moron for too long because you might lose a lot more than you win.

What are your moments of thinking too? 😀

Always welcomed to the corner,

Menna Xx

Keep sharing the +ve vibes!

Being sad and negative about most of things in your life is really fine, but at the end of the day we should be satisfied with who we are and what we do. It’s either this or we won’t have a life!

Just wait for a sec. and think. Do you really like the way things are? If yes then you should be really thankful because not a lot have such a blessing. But if not, also be fine too because that’s another blessing! I know that might sound weird but I have strong believes that when you are in a hard situation, it’s not the time to be sad and angry on anyone including yourself. It’s a bitter sweet challenge, that if you handled it good and right, then you actually passed a hard test in your life that ones again if it happens, you will know very well that it can’t stop or annoy you!

Therefore, I try always to be positive about everything in my life. Even in the hardest, worst situations. Sometimes, my family and friends say that I don’t have feelings that even in the worst, saddest situations I still laugh, and make jokes. But that’s not because I am weird or empty as some of you might think as my family. It’s my way to make me and everyone one around just out of their sadness or anger so we can find a solution easily.  Well, yeah I actually keep my anger and sadness in myself and try to keep it away really hard enough that whenever I am alone I start all the negative thinking. So, I found that if I kept that energy inside me for sometime, it will be hard so I start thinking positive and get rid of that non needed energy by listening to music, playing it, drawing, coloring, sports. Just anything to help me get my mind clear and focused on the positives and solutions.

More importantly is to not only shower yourself with all the +ve energy but also shower other people with it too! Believe me, if you want a relaxing, positive working area or a peaceful family reunion is really hard because we are all humans and we all have our pains and sorrows. So the only way to make everything positive is creating a huge field of happiness and energy that keeps everyone instead of cursing the day they got employed at, they just enjoy what they are doing at least :D. Try to make out of that boring same conversations meeting to a energetic, enthusiastic place of chit chatting and laughs 😀

Just keep sharing the positive energy not only with you soul but also with everybody around you! Remember! Sharing is caring 😉 😀

What do you do to get rid of the negative energy you have? 😀

Always welcomed to the corner,

Menna Xx

Everything comes on time

Most of us get stressed over late relationships, success, marriages and so on easily. As much as I think that stressing is such a healthy thing to do and have but why?

I’ve been always concerned about everything in my life, Like my grades, my next relationship or friendship and lately my career. It’s actually pretty normal to get stressed over things and especially late things. But let’s think of it more closely. Does your concern and stress speed up or fix things? Well, I don’t think so. Therefore, I think it’s better to think of those things or ways to fix them better!

I believe that patience and calmness are gifts, but more important that some people have them but they don’t know their existence! I’ve spent my whole life just until this year stressing and having no patience. This year I decided that I will not worry or stress myself at any cost, because when I stress things go wrong. Therefore, I started to train myself on patience and calmness even in hard situations so I can handle them as much as I can and  don’t lose control. I know that might seem hard and sometimes impossible in some severe situations when being calm is that last thing you can do, but just try. I mean whatever happens is our fate whether we accept it or not it’s going to happen, all we can do is trying our best to make things better in the most possible way. ” Wishing for the best expecting the worse.. 😀

So be patient as much as you can! Whatever you want to happen will happen. You are going to get promoted, or married or whatever you want. It’s all a matter of time. I picture life as a train station where every stop is a new station in our lives. And what we do on trains while travelling? We get to know new people, read more, work and sometimes we might think better of what to do in the next stop.

What I mean is that instead of sitting and waiting, think and plan! So when whatever you wait for is there, you don’t have to waste time and get to enjoy it till the max.! Keep your patience full! 😀

What are you waiting for? Are you patient or can’t wait ?! 😀

Always welcomed to the corner,

Menna Xx

The Strategy of New Experiences

Who doesn’t get bored of our daily routine? I’ve been always stuck in the routine and as any student life, it’s really hard to get out of this routine cycle. However, I kind of developed this idea of trying new stuff and I actually loved it!

I started from simple way of changes to kind of major ones. From physical changes up to actually internal changes.  For example, I started tasting new food that I’ve always said that I’ll never try and that I hate. I told myself that how can I hate something, at least when someone asks my for the reason I would have an answer. Therefore, I decided to taste food I’ve never even bothered to try before, to actually find out that I was completely wrong to ignore it and hate some of it. Even my way of living, I started to try being healthier and try going to the gym and try sports. Believe me! If you asked anyone about me last year, especially my mum, they would say that I was so lazy! Especially at holidays and weekends. I was like hold on a minute, if I am actually lazy to fetch the remote control from the coffee table in front of me, then what am I going to do when I am an adult with dozens of responsibilities? How can I even get to move to get these responsibilities and my life on track? I even decided to change my hair style that I’ve been having for as long as I remember and even ended up dying my hair. Well at least now when someone asks about dying their hair I would have an experience to share and know from it.

Those were the simple stuff. Let’s get really to the part of me changing? I started to laugh more, talk more, socialize more. I am no longer shy or get angry and upset easily as I used to be 2 years ago I guess. I realized that I want to survive and success this life I should have both the white and black side and control which part is shown for who, when and where. I understood that if I feared strangers and people in general from now, I won’t achieve my dream of at least a successful career life later on life. I won’t simply enjoy my life the way I dream of. I started reading more, learning more. I started to focus more on my targets and aims. And learning can’t come without trying, making mistakes and learning from them. That’s why trying new stuff has became a main target in my life. I started to care more about leaning new languages and cultures. I want to feel engaged in every way that is useful and not harming myself in a stupid way or a kind of a selfish, irresponsible one.  It’s only one life to live, laugh and enjoy.

Therefore, when you have the chance to try something new which is actually harmless. GO ON! Think of your CV and your next time when you speak with your friends or scrolling your photo album. Think of what you might add up to those! 😀

What new experiences you wish to have?

Always welcomed to the corner,

Menna Xx